Very touchy topic covered by ABC. According to their study, 42% of successful black women are single and have never been married, compared to 21% of white women. The video discussion goes into black women’s selectivity – or lack thereof, successful single black males being a rare commodity, interracial marriages by black women doubling in the last year and more.
I personally know more than a handful of successful black females who fit the criteria of the women being interviewed in this video. They’re concerned about their biological clocks ticking, of never creating the family they always wanted to go along with their otherwise picture perfect life. It is an awful thing to see a woman who has it all together settle for someone who has nothing and is basically a leach. At the end of the day, those parasitic relationships never work out anyway. I don’t think anyone should settle for less than what they deserve, but I think given the statistics, it’s definitely worth it for black women to figure out which of their criteria is necessary and which is complementary. For example, if a black woman went to grad school and/or is making $100K+ a year, has a perfectly fit body, beautiful face, great personality and is family oriented – does she need a man who is all of that 6′2″, likes to cook, rollerblade AND makes $20K more than her? If so, good luck to you. And even in a not so extreme case, there are women who have a modestly successful life – living comfortably – who have an issue finding decent black men who can at least provide for themselves. What I want to say is hold on, we are out there… you may have the odds against you but we are out there.
Watch the video and let me know your thoughts. Feel free to share your struggles, observations or possible solutions.
it all boils down to the facts that the video talked about. black men are not at the same level in society as black women. we’ve been grooming ourselves for success and we’re achieving, whereas I feel like black men are still doing the same old things. I consider myself a successful black woman and I feel like I can relate to all of the women at the table. *sigh*
Comment by Searra — December 30, 2009 @ 12:29 pm
This entire situation is troubling. The fact alone that there are so many more black women than black men period is alarming and frightening. I don’t want to be part of this statistic and I don’t want to marry outside my race. There are already not enough black men now and intermarrying there will be even less. What’s going to happen to the race as a whole. I work hard as a black woman and I want to pass my success on to another black generation. I don’t want my success to be transferred to a race that has been historically better off. I want my kids to be black and proud as I am.
Comment by Stace — January 11, 2010 @ 11:43 am