I personally know more than a handful of successful black females who fit the criteria of the women being interviewed in this video. They’re concerned about their biological clocks ticking, of never creating the family they always wanted to go along with their otherwise picture perfect life. It is an awful thing to see a woman who has it all together settle for someone who has nothing and is basically a leach. At the end of the day, those parasitic relationships never work out anyway. I don’t think anyone should settle for less than what they deserve, but I think given the statistics, it’s definitely worth it for black women to figure out which of their criteria is necessary and which is complementary. For example, if a black woman went to grad school and/or is making $100K+ a year, has a perfectly fit body, beautiful face, great personality and is family oriented – does she need a man who is all of that 6′2″, likes to cook, rollerblade AND makes $20K more than her? If so, good luck to you. And even in a not so extreme case, there are women who have a modestly successful life – living comfortably – who have an issue finding decent black men who can at least provide for themselves. What I want to say is hold on, we are out there… you may have the odds against you but we are out there.

Watch the video and let me know your thoughts. Feel free to share your struggles, observations or possible solutions.