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- - Nov
  - 16
  - 2009
- Somebody G’on Get This Chick Some Butt
  
  Written by Rondel at 11:13 pm on Nov, 16 2009
Although most of us tend to associate black women with having ample, rotund bumpers, I actually know quite a few who suffer from N’assatall. (#throwbacktothe90s) Many of these women go around with their heads hanging low, almost as if they’ve fallen short of their heritage. Much like the tragic mulattos who go around acting extra hood to prove their blackness, these black women who lack the rump, they…. well they just want to be accepted. They want their jeans to feel stuffed. They want to pound their fists that their True Religions and Joe Jeans don’t fit. They want their skirts to ride up in the back. Hell, they may even want to be groped from time to time, so that they shoo you off and punch you in the mouth, all the while secretly smiling inside that they had an ass worth groping. Men… who are we to deny them of their dreams of a fat one? Especially after non-black bazoonkas like J. Lo, Amber Rose and Ice T’s beau Coco have stepped to the plate. Hell, if I were a black woman with no ass I would be mad too! You’re losing every ten minutes!!

To understand a little further, please watch this video from a dear friend of mine, J. Danielle, who is looking up above and singing her soul out (on key) about her desire for a butt and the notions of what she passionately believes it will bring her. Shout out to all my women with modest portions, Rondel loves ya babe! Walk with your heads high!

In Love Sex & Magic behind, black women, butt pads, india arie, Music, nasatall, no ass, ready for butt

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- - Nov
  - 8
  - 2009
- Rihanna’s 20/20 Interview on Domestic Abuse
  
  Written by Rondel at 8:07 pm on Nov, 8 2009
In case you missed it, here is the full interview of Rihanna discussing the abuse she faced on the night of February 8th, 2008 – her attacker, Chris Brown. Not surprisingly, there have been a lot of mixed criticism of this interview. Some people say she threw Chris Brown under the bus by discussing their private business. Others say she stood up for women and did the right thing by talking about it. Many find it interesting that she waited until both of their albums were ready to drop before she had this highly publicized interview.

Honestly, I think the interview was fair. As previously blogged, I don’t think domestic abuse should be tolerated under any circumstances. I believe she is being genuine when she says she doesn’t hate Chris and wants the best for him. I also think this was a great look for women and girls to see that no matter how much love has blinded you, if you are getting beat, you need to step outside your situation and evaluate it from the third person P.O.V. As the Bajan barbie coined it “Eff Love.” Check the vid…

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

In Love Sex & Magic 20 20, 20/20, barbara walters, barbra walters, beat, beyonce, breezy, chris, chris brown, domestic abuse, full length, hit, interview, jay-z, rhianna, rihanna, speak, trey songz, under buss, video

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- - Oct
  - 24
  - 2009
- Professional Black Women Need To Reproduce?
  
  Written by Rondel at 2:15 am on Oct, 24 2009
There’s a great blog out there called A Belle in Brooklyn, authored by a southern woman who journals her adventures of life in the BK. Recenly she had a very thought provoking post about how women who are financially struggling in the Black community tend to have the most children, whereas the professional Black women have few or no children. She discusses the affect this it is having on the caliber of our youth and essentially our tomorrow. I stand by the Tupac line in Keep Your Head Up “And since a man can’t make one, he has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one.” Especially since I’ve recently been getting more experienced in my professional career, I can’t blame the women who work harder than the average, who don’t want to come home and tend to children. Worthy of a separate discussion in itself, we should consider the fact that the percentage of professional black women who are single is astounding. Single motherhood is not something to take lightly.

I would, however, like to open the topic for discussion for our men and women in the Black community and beyond, because this really is a socio-economic issue more than it is a race one, in my opinion. It becomes racial when we (Black people) are looking out for ourselves, within the larger scope of the issue. But it is an issue none-the-less. So here’s the letter…

Last weekend I attended my best friend’s bday dinner (the big 30)! A bunch of us were sitting around engaging in the regular banter of late 20’s/ early 30 young professionals. My BFF segues from into a story about a visit at her Ob/Gyn where her doctor, a white woman, begged her to start multiplying. The Ob/Gyn hoped not to offend, then told her more educated, professional AA’s need to start having babies and need to start having them soon, to balance out the craziness in our community.

She asked my BFF if any of her friends have babies (which none of us do). Upon hearing that we did not, her OBGYN was futher alarmed. She asked what is going to become of African- Americans if all of the educated folks continue to be baby free?

This really got me thinking. at that brunch table were all act right, educated, self respecting AA’s. And we’re ALL baby free? Then I thought about my circle at work and beyond who are mostly baby- free too. The more I thought about it, the more I realized my BFF’s OBGYN may be on to something!

The people in our community that need to produce the most are not and the people who need to stop producing, multiply like there is no tomorrow. What will happen to future generations?? We complain that there is a lack (in particular) of well mannnered, educated AA men. But if we are not getting married and having babies and in turn, raising well-mannered, educated AA men, who is to blame?

Back in the day, WEB Dubois proclaimed that we need to rely on the “Talented Tenth” to move us forward as a community. I would argue that the so- called Talented Tenth is failing our community. We are no longer getting married— or believing in marriage— and we are no longer reproducing (at the rate of other folks in the community).

I know your position on babies, but maybe we should re-think our position on not having children. We need more future Belles than not.

For the Belle’s full feedback on the letter, check her post out here.

I WOULD LOVE TO HERE WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY ABOUT THIS TOPIC. LET’S KEEP IT CLEAN AND RESPECTFUL!

In Love Sex & Magic AA, african american, black women, child, children, economic, poor, professional, rich, status, wealthy, welfare

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- - Oct
  - 19
  - 2009
- Do Good Guys Like Bad Girls?
  
  Written by Rondel at 10:01 pm on Oct, 19 2009
By Doll R. Bills

I’m sure we are all familiar with the idea that good girls usually fall for bad boys. We’ve seen this happen over and over with our friends, families, celebs. Same old story – the girl has it all together: the looks, the smarts, the drive … and she ends up some good-for-nothing guy who likely doesn’t even treat her right. She’s just “addicted to the thrill, it’s a dangerous love affair.” But have you ever stopped to think about the other way around? If good girls tend to like bad boys, who do good guys like?

Well in recent conversations with good dudes and good girls seeking good dudes, I’ve discovered that many good guys go after bad girls. Before you go refuting the idea, allow me to explain a bit. The bad girls aren’t “bad” in the same way that the bad boys are. Whereas the bad boys likely don’t have a job, stability or social etiquette, these bad girls have all of the above. However, these bad girls lack emotional stability and the desire to please or be devoted to her man. They act out in public and do annoying things to get attention. In other words, good guys tend to fall for the cold-hearted and crazy.

Think I’m lying? Think of two good guys that you know (I know, this may take a minute, so take your time….) Now think about the relationships that they’ve been in. Chances are they’ve been with chicks that you secretly thought to yourself “he can do better.” You don’t gotta tell me, I already know.

The thing is, when one person has it all together, even though they may be all smiles, life can get mundane sometimes. When you know day in and day out that your ish is tight, you miss that spirit of spontaneity that comes along with being a bad ass. Whether that means doing wild ish and not caring who’s affected by it or playing with people’s emotions to because you have no control over your own. Or even the struggle of not knowing how you’re going to pay your bills or get out of some illegal bind. You can shake your head all dam day but what I’m saying is true. There are people who crave this lifestyle. It’s like their little project. The same way good girls are there to take care of bad boys, good guys feel like it’s their place to be the rock in these insane women’s lives.

But here’s the gotcha gotcha. Opposites attract and then they attack, hard. So all you good guys and good girls, stop trying to be a super hero! Get with someone on your level. Let these basic people you’re dealing with enjoy the other basket cases of the world, you should do better. The question is, do you want to?

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- - Sep
  - 10
  - 2009
- Get You A Cougar
  
  Written by Rondel at 1:44 pm on Sep, 10 2009
Cougar (Dictionary.com): Noun. A large powerful wild cat (Felis concolor) of mountainous regions of the Western Hemisphere, having an unmarked tawny body.

Cougar (Urbandictionary.com): Noun. An older female who is on the “hunt” for a much younger, energetic, willing-to-do-anything male.

How do we feel about cougars? Personally, I’m all about some good cougar action. I mean, if you’re a few years older than me, I’m all about it. The thing is, contrary to popular belief, some of us men actually are mature for our ages. Even if we’re not more mature, many of us young dudes know how to handle a woman better than a jaded ass older man who has been through the ringer and therefore has a secret vengeance against all woman-kind. And if research claims a woman reaches her sexual peak mid-30s, and us mean reach ours a good ten years earlier, why not fall prey to an amazing time?! I’m just saying.

However, if you are old enough to have had me nursing on your tate as a new born, then the bar is raised. I need for you to be Stacy Dash’s level of cougar hotness. Yes, I stand firm behind the fact that Stacy Dash is and forever will be the ultimate cougar, Queen Cougar if you will.

An old colleague of mine who was into astrology, numerology and such told me that in my love life I will deal with many diva-like, sassy older woman types who are into my boyish, fun-loving ways. I didn’t believe her until in the last month or so I have been approached by many a mountain lion. None quite a cougar of my caliber, but I was flattered nonetheless. Fact is, I’ve always been attracted to older females. When I was in 7th grade, all my crushes were in the 8th grade. When I turned 18, I definitely felt apt to handle a 22 year old woman.

But how old is too old? You know what, that’s a matter of personal opinion. We must refer to cougars in terms of YHS (years head start.) I am 25 right now and I’d probably be open to a 5-7 YHS. Maybe even 10, shit, it aint tricking if you got it. A woman is probably more financially and emotionally stable at that age. She is probably over love games and has either chosen the track to get serious and settle down or simply have fun and see where life takes her. I’m inclined to the latter, but I’m not even going to lie to you, I’m not mad at the man who marries a cougar.

I recently met a happily married woman who is seven years older than her husband. They met when he was 23 and she was 30. Fast-forward to today, he makes enough money where they mutually decided that she would stay home and tend to their children. Yes, a homemaker in 2009. That sounds like the life that some women I encounter are looking for (Not the woman I’m looking for, but I won’t judge you.)

If women have enjoyed sugar daddies for years, why can’t we men enjoy a good cougar? Take me out sometimes, help me map out my life, school me about your life experiences, teach ME some shit. In turn, I’ll put that young boy swag on it. All in all, I don’t see anything wrong with the pairing of an adventurous woman who is a little older and a young man who is able and willing. Fellas, how do you feel about cougars? If you’re down, what’s your YSH? Women, are you open to an “energetic, willing to do anything male”?

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